I had an interesting experience yesterday.I had the opportunity to interact with someone who has been giving me the cold shoulder for a really long time-for reasons unknown.I know it could have been me,but I just couldn't figure out what the problem was.Not that I am a saint,but no amount of retrospection gave me a clue as to what had happened.
The behavior was pretty petty-ignoring me in a crowd,ignoring a friend of mine,just because she was with me,slightly uppity kind of attitude,exclusionary behavior.....well catty, basically.
We do something in church together every year and I have taken care to keep myself as far away as possible from this person while arranging things for this event. After all what is the point in immersing yourself in God ,when your heart and soul,and more importantly, mind is otherwise occupied-actually with 10 different ways of getting back at this person?So I had decided over the years that I would limit physical proximity with this person for my own peace of mind and because of the circumstance and location of our annual conglomeration.
This year was much the same,except I had done something that required a large financial outlay and something I (more like my husband and I,but he does not want to be in the public eye at all,so ....) had  decided, need not be announced to the world at large.In fact during the course of this annual event over the years,our contribution has been more in the background,but vital to the event in question-as you can see,I don't blow my own horn too much!!!!
Anyway,I don't know what happened,but I was thanked for this contribution(after the event,actually),and there has been a thaw in the -I don't know what to call it-relationship?friendship?
We do not have too many opportunities to interact and I,for one,want to keep it that way,but it felt good that something was resolved.After all, I think it is easy to forget past grievances and keep up a happy face one day in a year.When you are friendly with someone for a while and then have a falling out,I think it is tough but the relationship is salvageable.But once you have started off on the wrong foot,then......not to sound vengeful,but there is an inherent flaw in the relationship that I think cannot be glossed over.
So I am back to square one-once a year,civilities will be exchanged and that is about it.Good enough I think.