I went back and read my post for January 1st this year. Not a bad one actually and I think I've been pretty faithful to it. But now that the year is fading away and a new one is unfurling, I need to do more.That was when I decided to come up with a new resolution for 2018.
I'm still good with the 'I'm not going to judge people' part. But I've decided to take it one step further.
My inspiration is my Carnatic music teacher friend again. She was telling me the other day about how she absolutely hates gift wrapping stuff or even putting them in gift bags with all the fluff and stuff.And since she had moved from another state to Oregon,she had decided that she had nothing to lose and would be whatever she wanted to be and let people decide whether they wanted to associate with her or not. After more than twenty years living in another state and adjusting to other people's expectations, she felt confident enough to be whoever she wants to be and let others decide if they are in or out. As for her, she says she is perfectly happy the way she is and her standard is set and she will never bend over to accommodate anyone just to fit in. So, gifts get delivered in the bag that the store put them in. No gift paper to tear, no paper shreds to rifle through to get to the gift. But obviously, the gift is there.Without the fluff. Mission accomplished eh?
I turned 45 which I think is well over the half life mark for me and I'm taking a leaf off her book.No more worrying about pleasing other people or doing things I don't want to do just to fit in or please someone. I will not be judgmental or critical or intentionally forceful about things. But I will not do things I don't want to do unless absolutely warranted. Like commenting on things on social media even if I am not moved enough to comment on it. Or sharing way too much of trivial occurrences because everyone does it. Or joining the bandwagon every time something happens which is supposedly worth reacting to, though I don't share the emotion. I will not be rude, but I surely will not do or put up with things I don't like unless it serves a bigger purpose. I will learn to say no if I don't want to do something unless it is absolutely necessary.
People who know me are probably rolling their eyes at this oath I've taken. I don't come off as someone who is accommodative or considerate. I've been accused of being brutally frank if anything. But I know that I am non confrontational and would rather have imaginary conversations (read, arguments) in the bathroom than go at it with someone in real life. I have done things I didn't want to do which has led to people taking advantage of me sometimes. I don't say no easily. So I will learn to say no.
But I will be forever willing to reach out and help, support and encourage my friends,family and acquaintances.I will move heaven and earth for anyone who needs it done because it will benefit them in a good way.But if it just gives someone a high, but doesn't rock my boat? Eh, no.
That's my first no!
Happy 2018!
I'm still good with the 'I'm not going to judge people' part. But I've decided to take it one step further.
My inspiration is my Carnatic music teacher friend again. She was telling me the other day about how she absolutely hates gift wrapping stuff or even putting them in gift bags with all the fluff and stuff.And since she had moved from another state to Oregon,she had decided that she had nothing to lose and would be whatever she wanted to be and let people decide whether they wanted to associate with her or not. After more than twenty years living in another state and adjusting to other people's expectations, she felt confident enough to be whoever she wants to be and let others decide if they are in or out. As for her, she says she is perfectly happy the way she is and her standard is set and she will never bend over to accommodate anyone just to fit in. So, gifts get delivered in the bag that the store put them in. No gift paper to tear, no paper shreds to rifle through to get to the gift. But obviously, the gift is there.Without the fluff. Mission accomplished eh?
I turned 45 which I think is well over the half life mark for me and I'm taking a leaf off her book.No more worrying about pleasing other people or doing things I don't want to do just to fit in or please someone. I will not be judgmental or critical or intentionally forceful about things. But I will not do things I don't want to do unless absolutely warranted. Like commenting on things on social media even if I am not moved enough to comment on it. Or sharing way too much of trivial occurrences because everyone does it. Or joining the bandwagon every time something happens which is supposedly worth reacting to, though I don't share the emotion. I will not be rude, but I surely will not do or put up with things I don't like unless it serves a bigger purpose. I will learn to say no if I don't want to do something unless it is absolutely necessary.
People who know me are probably rolling their eyes at this oath I've taken. I don't come off as someone who is accommodative or considerate. I've been accused of being brutally frank if anything. But I know that I am non confrontational and would rather have imaginary conversations (read, arguments) in the bathroom than go at it with someone in real life. I have done things I didn't want to do which has led to people taking advantage of me sometimes. I don't say no easily. So I will learn to say no.
But I will be forever willing to reach out and help, support and encourage my friends,family and acquaintances.I will move heaven and earth for anyone who needs it done because it will benefit them in a good way.But if it just gives someone a high, but doesn't rock my boat? Eh, no.
That's my first no!
Happy 2018!
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