Mommy wars!

I had to comment on the recent blog post by Matthew Walsh which apparently has created a maelstrom of reactions ranging from applause to derisive vitriol. The article I read on yahoo had a woman commenting that it was the woman's  decision to make-whether she stayed home with the kids or worked. I beg to differ. This needs to be a joint decision-after all marriage is a joint effort at creating a family and living life at its best isn't it? So if a man decides to give his job up if he isn't happy with it, will that be his decision to make?
I think I have mentioned this before in one of my posts, but I will relate it again. Everytime I have to pick my husband from his work place, I look at a lot of Indian women walking out  after work, and immediately put myself in their place-I am after all qualified to work there. My husband has Indian women who work in his group too. So one day, I asked him if he had ever felt the way I did-that his wife could have worked in Intel.
His answer was so not what I had expected-his perspective floored me!!
He reminded me that we had graduated together from school and if I had started working when he did, I would be as crazy busy as he is now and what would have become of our family life? There is enough statistics to show that while the number of hours women put in at work has increased, the number of hours they spend doing  housework has not come down proportionately. Yeah, yeah, feminists might jump up and say men need to pull their own and some such stuff, but a woman is irreplaceable in some situations-a kid with a scraped knee will want Mom not Dad to kiss the pain away.
If it is professional fulfillment you want, ladies, go for it!!I have had people look surprised when they find out that I am highly qualified. They invariably ask me if I want to go(back) to work. Oh,no not in the foreseeable future. I am perfectly happy where I am. Of course, my husband makes enough money, so there is no compulsion in my case.And while I have twinges of regret at not having climbed the corporate ladder,I have absolutely no regrets about having stayed home.My children have me at their beck and call-don't get me wrong-they aren't spoiled-but they have a certain certainty in their life-Mom is there-always-no questions asked .My son mentioned a kid who had missed his bus home who was freaking out because -funnily my son couldn't figure it out-and I had to tell him that maybe,the kid's parents both work and he was not sure who would be able to pick him up.All that my son would have to do is walk back to the school office and call me-and I would be there.
I am not trying to say working moms aren't good moms-just that my choice to stay home is not in any way inferior to another woman's choice to work.My life's success need not be predicated by my having contributed to society by being a wage earning member of some corporate entity.