Come with me!

Loved the song 'Yennodu vaa vaa' from "Nee thane yen Ponvasantham". Karthik has nailed it.He doesn't just sing-he emotes.I have never payed too much attention to the singer in quite a while-but this song made me sit up and take notice.The lyrics were good too-especially the second verse -how love let's your ego get the better of you sometimes.And it struck me-love,marriage-any collaboration with another person requires hard work and give and take and a great deal of adjustment-how much of each, depends on the project at hand and whether it is possible to walk away if it doesn't suit you or stick to it at any cost -like a relationship.
Ofcourse the two protagonists of this movie come off as flaky twenty somethings -which indeed they are-but still......you wish they would think this thing through.I could not foresee happily ever after for the two of them-and how to solve/end an argument-after all the smooching and everything else-you probably end up with more kids,but the problem at hand is still around huh?
Everyday,when I hand my husband his coffee cup,I hold it ,hot as it is,in such a way that he can pick it up by the handle-but he always tries to pick it up by holding it around its rim,essentially cancelling out the effort I put into making it easier for him to pick up a hot cup of coffee!This happened today morning too and I yelled at him for not appreciating the fact that I was willing to hold a hot cup of coffee just so he needn't.And I did remind him that I have mentioned this a gazillion times and he just doesn't want to change.Minor problem?Yes.Solved?No!Kiss and make up-most definitely not!!
I wonder how many marriages end in divorce because the couple in question do not see what is front of them.I know someone whose husband will wait,really,patiently,wait, until she gets up from the couch, and then make her get him things-like snacks or the remote or a magazine or some such thing,something he could very easily do for himself.This is someone who basically vegetates on the couch and expects her to do things for him.That to me is a typical example of taking people for granted.They have been married almost twenty years now and over time I have seen the dynamics change-I don't know what brought it on-I hope it was a showdown-but he seems more thoughtful and sensitive.Imagine how this would end if the" kiss and make up method" was employed!She would be at his beck and call 24/7 and .....I do concede that anybody looking at a marriage from the outside gets only a partial picture of the actual state of affairs,but still,some things are obvious.
Anyway,marriage is work and like any other occupation,hard work pays off I think.But marriage being a partnership,working in tandem is critical and therein lies the trick.I wonder how many of us master that?Not me for sure!!But still,like I said,pegging away does produce results,so keep at it!!!